Grief of Death

For those experiencing grief of a loss from death
Individual counseling
For Adults, Adolescents, and Children
Family Counseling
For up to 8 family members
Parents Counseling
Grieving the death of a child
Pregnant woman holding small baby shoes.


Often referred to as a “disenfranchised Grief”meaning the loss is not supported or validated. Well- meaning family and friends give unsolicited advice such as “you can always have another baby” or “it’s God’s will” and “it just wasn’t meant to be” leaving mom to feel isolated and alone in her grief.

There is much to grieve with a miscarriage. The loss of hopes and dreams for “that” child, the affect it has on mom’s self-esteem and identity, and the anxiety of experiencing another miscarriage with future pregnancies.

Grief counseling provides that safe environment to explore the grief of the miscarriage, the uncertainty of future pregnancies, and adjustment to the changes.

Pregnant woman holding an ultrasound picture.


Also considered a disenfranchised grief for many of the reasons stated above but the shock doesn’t set in until almost towards the end of the pregnancy. The parents see a fully formed baby in many cases and now try to visualize what their child would look like throughout life.  There is also usually a service and/ or burial /cremation.

There are similar cliché’s as for miscarriage and although the parents may be supported for awhile, the concern soon diminishes assuming parents are “over it”.

It is important for this grief to be validated and explored also to help parents and especially mom adjust to her experience.

Many times it just takes an accepting environment to help the parent grieving to make meaning in life again through empowering her to think of ways to keep her baby’s memory alive.

Woman in hijab thoughtful in cemetery.

Child Loss

When a parent develops Alzheimers, a little part of them dies almost every day, so we grieve as we slowly watch them lose their identity.  Oftentimes, adult children become the caregivers assuming additional responsibilities of decisions for the parent and if there was not a Living Will made by the parent  indicating their wishes should there be a life or death decision, then the burden falls on the healthy spouse or the adult children. There can also be family conflict when there is a difference of opinion on decisions to be made.

With the focus on caregiving for the parent, the emotional components are often not addressed causing a more complicated grief when that parent dies. It is important for the family and caregiver to be able to express their concerns and acknowledge the grief they are experiencing in re to their parent’s decline.

The above are just a few of the health-related losses that occur throughout life and as most can adapt as the changes occur, others need additional support for reassurance and validation of the challenges they are faced with.

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Death of young spouse

When a young spouse dies unexpectedly either by sudden death of a heart attack or accident, the surviving spouse faces many challenges of assuming the roles of the absent spouse, along with becoming a single parent. When the spouse who died was the main income, the financial losses can be monumental affecting lifestyle.

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Death of spouse

Losing a spouse after being married for many years is sometimes the most difficult to adjust to especially when they had spent a lot of time together after retirement. With the children grown and sometimes living in another state, the surviving spouse struggles with their sense of identity, sense of purpose and meaning in life without their partner. Loneliness is the main struggle as they are in the home that was shared by 2 with memories from a lifetime.

Peggy Vota
Kathy is one of the greatest people God has put into my life, without her I may not be here today. She helped me recover from some very sad and grief depression struggles after the loss of my daughter. With Kathy’s awesome counseling ,( group/individual) my life is finally starting to look bright once again…Kathy thank you!!!….You are a wonderful caring person..I will love you forever.
Steve & Lillie Heitke
In our darkest times Kathy was a beacon of light, leading us on a path to a deeper understanding of our grief and the challenges that lie ahead. We highly recommend Kathy’s loss and grief counseling services.
Kaitlin Mason
After the loss of my first child I completely thought my life was over. After months of not getting out of bed and practically sleeping all day long my mom found Kathy. She literally saved my life when I believed there was no hope. She guided me through all stages of grief and showed me it was okay to have those feelings. I wouldn’t trade my time with her for anything else. Kathy goes above and beyond for her clients and she is truly an amazing person!
Julie Blackburn
I have known Kathy Cherven for a number of years. As an intern, she took me under her wing and taught me about being a therapist. As a colleague, we collaborated and I continued to grow through my experiences with her. She is an amazing clinician and I enjoy her point of view.

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There are times life runs smoothly and then an unexpected loss is experienced causing a grief reaction with many confusing and overwhelming emotions The loss may be through the death of a loved one of a non-death loss, sch as job loss, loss of possessions, acquired disabilities, or any life changing event.
Grief is an ongoing process of adjusting to that loss and making meaning out of life again. Grief is complex and multidimensional and is as unique as one’s fingerprint.

-Kathy Cherven
103 E. Jefferson St., Morris, IL  60450
(815) 416-9036

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Insurance: Deductible: You’ll pay the full fee at the time of service. Once your deductible is met you will only have to pay your co-pay.

Accepted Insurance: We accept insurance from Blue Cross Blue Shield