Unexpected Life Events

For those experiencing grief from unexpected life events
Individual counseling
For Adults, Adolescents, and Children
Family Counseling
For up to 8 family members
Parents Counseling
Grieving the death of a child

Unexpected Life Events

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Acquired disabilities

When an unexpected job loss is experienced, the person’s self-esteem, sense of purpose, and identity could be affected. If the person who lost their job was the main source of income, the insecurities of paying the bills and household expenses is threatened which could cause conflict within the family. Since self-esteem could be lowered, looking for another job can be challenging. The above reactions need to be addressed to help the individual adjust to the current situation and to look for another job with confidence.

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When a couple marries it’s with the expectation that the marriage will last through the good times and bad as the marriage vows stated but when a marriage fails , the hopes and dreams are destroyed. When a partner asks for divorce and the other had no idea, it can be traumatic. There is often a sense of failure and/or betrayal causing one to question the quality of the relationship from the start.

Divorce is even more devastating when children are involved threatening their sense of security and many times feeling as they should be taking sides.

A break up of any kind affects identity and sense of purpose, along with trust issues in other relationships. Counseling provides a safe environment in which to confront those concerns, learn from the past and make healthy decisions in the future.

Unexpected Life Events

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Death by suicide is very tragic because there are so many unanswered questions for survivors. Many times a survivor feels guilty that they could have missed signs that their loved one was so depressed and feel the suicide could have been prevented.

Survivors of suicide are also hesitant to share their grief bec of the perceived stigma associated with suicide in our society. Some survivors also feel angry for their loved one for “abandoning” them and a sense of betrayal for not trusting them enough to tell them how broken they were.

Many survivors also feel uncomfortable sharing in a general grief support group comparing their loss to others whose loved ones died from other causes. Some feel embarrassed to share feeling they themselves will be judged by others for being a “less than” parent, friend, or partner.

Survivors of suicide need a safe place to work through all of the unanswered questions, forgive their loved one and carry on their memory with love and compassion.

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Death due to addiction

As soon as the family learns that their teen is addicted, the dynamics of the family changes from one of normalcy to one of chaos, affecting the entire family. The results of addiction are devastating as the family grieves the loss of the hopes and dreams for the teen and entire family. Much of the time and effort is spent in and out of treatment centers, with hopes rising and then crashing when the teen relapses.  There is no escaping the reality they could receive a call telling them their teen has died from an overdose.

When that call does come, every parent would exchange the death for the chaos of the addiction.

Again, there is the stigma associated with addiction and a fear that the parents will be judged as failures and more importantly fear their child’s image will be tainted because of their choices.

The grief for these parents and families is very complex and complicated because they started grieving with the discovery of the addiction but the focus was on saving their child. Now, the family grieves all of it; the failed treatments, the calls from the police saying their teen has been arrested, court dates and sometimes incarceration;  the family dynamics and now the death to which it feels like the grief will never end.

Since many parents actually find their child dead in their home, there is the PTSD that occurs. A parent will initiate CPR until EMS arrives and they have that memory of those moments of terror forever ingrained in their brain.

Specific groups are offered to families providing a nonjudgmental environment in which to share stories never shared and to feel a connection to other family and friends who understand.

Peggy Vota
Kathy is one of the greatest people God has put into my life, without her I may not be here today. She helped me recover from some very sad and grief depression struggles after the loss of my daughter. With Kathy’s awesome counseling ,( group/individual) my life is finally starting to look bright once again…Kathy thank you!!!….You are a wonderful caring person..I will love you forever.
Steve & Lillie Heitke
In our darkest times Kathy was a beacon of light, leading us on a path to a deeper understanding of our grief and the challenges that lie ahead. We highly recommend Kathy’s loss and grief counseling services.
Kaitlin Mason
After the loss of my first child I completely thought my life was over. After months of not getting out of bed and practically sleeping all day long my mom found Kathy. She literally saved my life when I believed there was no hope. She guided me through all stages of grief and showed me it was okay to have those feelings. I wouldn’t trade my time with her for anything else. Kathy goes above and beyond for her clients and she is truly an amazing person!
Julie Blackburn
I have known Kathy Cherven for a number of years. As an intern, she took me under her wing and taught me about being a therapist. As a colleague, we collaborated and I continued to grow through my experiences with her. She is an amazing clinician and I enjoy her point of view.

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There are times life runs smoothly and then an unexpected loss is experienced causing a grief reaction with many confusing and overwhelming emotions The loss may be through the death of a loved one of a non-death loss, sch as job loss, loss of possessions, acquired disabilities, or any life changing event.
Grief is an ongoing process of adjusting to that loss and making meaning out of life again. Grief is complex and multidimensional and is as unique as one’s fingerprint.

-Kathy Cherven
103 E. Jefferson St., Morris, IL  60450
(815) 416-9036

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Insurance: Deductible: You’ll pay the full fee at the time of service. Once your deductible is met you will only have to pay your co-pay.

Accepted Insurance: We accept insurance from Blue Cross Blue Shield